Monday, May 9, 2011

Venting - with dead weight you cant travel lite.

Okay yall, i need to vent. I'm getting soooo annoyed -__- with people and THEIR problem with my weight. I am very comfortable and confident with MY body, but for some odd reason people surrounding me have a problem with it. I think I carry myself very well and shit I think i look good and not " for a BIG girl" but for myself period. Okay okay i get HEALTH is a huge factor ( no pun intented lol) but last time I checked I'm pretty healthy. Honestly, I don't even think that's the concern. I've been told I need to lose weight to be in a wedding!! haha people are crazy.I just feel bad because I'm not the only one dealing with this issue. However I am a strong person where this doesn't effect how I see myself.I Just get annoyed after awhile.

 I really wish that females especially "big girls" can see themselves, the way I do. I am not my hair, my BODY, my skin color, my hair texture. I am me for the things that me, ME. and everything I'm not make me everything I am. So in my title where I say "with dead weight you can't travel lite"  meaning those people around you that try to hurt your feelings or put you down because of your body- they are the dead weight. These are the people you need to lose out of your life, so you can travel lite meaning be yourself.

So for the hug you need here goes one *hugs*
Love yourself and be yourself ladies :]


12 comments:

  1. OMG I know exactly how you feel! I live in an area with a bunch of skinny white people (Sorry if anybody finds that offensive) And its ridiculous.Everybody is like a size 0.I can barely find clothes at our mall.Basically if your bigger than a size 5, your "fat".I used to care but just like you, Im happy with myself.And THANK YOU! for still being happy with yourself! I hate people that feel they need to lose weight because of what other people think.Your a role model foreal :)

    Btw your freaking gorgeous! And your body is amazing!

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    http://lovetheegoddess.blogspot.com/

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  2. Thank you for your comment!! :)
    Yes i know exacty what you mean about shopping at the mall. the only thing i can fit is jewerly and heels!! haha seriously i have to be this way, i have a little sister who will probably grow up to be a big her because shes chunky now and shes only 10. i would hate for her to feel how i felt as a child. i got picked on alot but ive grown to love myself because.. well you have to love you. and im preeeetty amazing if i say so myself. lol! well thanks again girl for the feedback!! :]

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  4. I totally can relate with this post!!! My mother side of the family is skinny and my father side is heavy. My mother's family always down play "overweight" people with distasteful comments. When I was 18 years old I was diagnosed with a heart condition so one of my aunts from my mother side of the family called me to see "how i was going" but the first thing that came out of her mouth was it's your weight that has you sick. I wanted to curse her out so bad but I just hung up the phone. My weight was not the cause of my heart problem. My sister is 8 years older than me and has been struggling with her weight all of her life. It hurts her when my mom talks about "overweight" people, we could be watching tv and a plus size woman comes on the screen and she'll say she looks nasty, she needs to lose weight, she doesn't need those type of designs on because she is too big to be wearing foral, polka dots, and loud colors. BLAH! BLAH! BLAH! *NEWSFLASH* you have two daughters sitting here that are "FAT"! It use to get to me but now I don't pay her any attention, sometimes I wanna say STFU but she's my mom so I can't step out of line! It hurts my sister though because she'll bring it up to me when we're not around my mom. SMH! I've even had so called friends that I met in the past year who will not call me to go to the club for "man hunting" because of my size but whatever I look 20 times better than them and on top of that I don't go to the club to "FIND" a man! LOL! My best friend has never done anything like to me but she stays in another state so it's hard to find geniune friends like her! It should have more plus size stores!!! I use to hate going to the mall when I lived in Louisiana because it only had THE AVENUE their clothes SUCK! But moving to a metropolitian area you have a bigger variety of plus size clothing, I love Torrid has a lot of locations in the area!!!

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  5. Hey Honey thanks for your comment!!
    Im sorry to hear about you heart condition i pray for better health for you :)
    It really made me sad when you were explaining the situations with your mom. i really wish she was more sensitive and encouraging but Im very happy that you still remain true to you and love yourself no matter what because thats whats important. when you was talking about your "friends" i laughed because that is crazy. if they are your real friends your weight shouldn't matter. Maybe they are scared you can take the attention from them! lol thats a shame you can really see how bad people feel about theirselves when they put other people down. and yea i pretty much hate malls! lol Well thanks for youe feedback girl and if you ever need someone to talk to about weight or anything just let me know girlfriend :)

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  7. This is so inspirational to me. Im plus size myself. Society really get into the minds of people and make it seem like being model thin is the only type of beauty in the world when that is so not the case. I think you are beautiful and from the looks of that picture, it looks like you carry yourself pretty well.
    ps...I just started a blog so if your interested check it out and follow if you would like!! :)

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  8. Shakiera I'm glad you were inspired honey :) this is true some people arent mature enough to understand that. Or to understand that looks dont matter anyway. awe thank you so much!! and welcome :] i just started really blogging recently too. and i followed you.

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  9. Thanks hun! I appreciate it. And yes we have to keep our heads up because this society is so cruel! All that we can do is be the best that we can be and take it one day at a time!

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  10. I love this post and I feel you for real! The world can be so tough sometimes, especially on women who are more than a size 2. I'm sending hugs your way pretty girl. Be blessed :)

    ~Dre

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  11. Thank you!! I'm glad you enjoyed it. Yea it can be but being strong is whats important. Sending hugs to you as well :) thanks for the love hon.

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